Pregnancy and Infant Loss
Your Baby Was Real. Your Grief Is Real. And It Deserves Real Support.
Therapy for pregnancy loss, miscarriage, stillbirth, TFMR, and infant loss. Grief-informed, trauma-sensitive support in New York. You don't have to grieve alone.
People will tell you they're sorry. Some will say the wrong thing. Some will say nothing at all. The world will move on much faster than you can, and you may find yourself performing okay-ness long before you feel anything close to it. You may be waiting for the grief to arrive in a shape you recognize and instead finding something stranger and more complicated. Or you may be drowning in it, alone in a way that surprises you with its intensity.
However your loss happened, whatever you're feeling, and however long ago it was: you are welcome here.
The Losses This Therapy Holds
Pregnancy and infant loss takes many forms, and all of them deserve care. This work is for people who have experienced:
Miscarriage: including early losses, which are often minimized even though they are not minor
Recurrent pregnancy loss: the particular grief and anxiety of losing more than one pregnancy
Stillbirth: the devastating loss of a baby after viability
TFMR (Termination for Medical Reasons): one of the least talked about, most isolating forms of pregnancy loss; often experienced alongside profound moral injury and complicated grief
Neonatal loss: the loss of a baby in the days or weeks after birth
Loss after infertility treatment: when the baby you fought so hard for is the baby you lost
Secondary infertility and subsequent pregnancy anxiety: the fear and grief that follow loss when trying to conceive again
What Grief After Pregnancy Loss Actually Looks Like
Grief is not linear, and pregnancy loss grief rarely follows the shape people expect. You might feel:
Profound sadness that comes in waves, sometimes without warning
Anger: at your body, at the universe, at pregnant people around you, at yourself
Guilt and self-blame, even when nothing was your fault
Numbness or disconnection, like you're watching your own life from a distance
Relief, in some circumstances, and then guilt about the relief
Anxiety about future pregnancies, your body, or your ability to have a family
Isolation, because few people know how to be present with this kind of loss
A desperate need to talk about your baby, to say their name, to have them acknowledged, and nowhere that feels safe to do that
All of this is grief. None of it means you're broken.
What Therapy for Pregnancy Loss Looks Like
Grief therapy for pregnancy loss is not about helping you move on. It is about helping you move forward in a way that carries your baby with you rather than leaving them behind. We use approaches grounded in contemporary grief theory, trauma-informed care, and somatic work to help your body and mind process what happened at the pace that's right for you.
This is a space where your baby is acknowledged. Where you can say their name. Where the full complexity of your experience, including the parts that feel unspeakable, can be held without judgment.
There is no timeline on this. You are welcome here whenever you're ready.
Frequently Asked Questions:
Pregnancy and Infant Loss
Still have questions? Take a look at the FAQ or reach out anytime. If you’re feeling ready, go ahead and apply.
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Whenever you're ready, there's no right or wrong timeline. Some people reach out within days of a loss because they need immediate support. Others come weeks, months, or years later, sometimes triggered by a subsequent pregnancy, an anniversary, or simply a moment of realizing they've been carrying this alone for too long. Grief doesn't have an expiration date, and neither does the door to support.
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Yes. Early pregnancy loss is among the most minimized forms of grief — "it was just a miscarriage," "at least it was early," "you can try again." These responses, however well-intentioned, deny the reality of what was lost: a wanted pregnancy, a hoped-for future, a baby who already existed in your heart and your plans. The earliness of a loss says nothing about its significance to you. If you are grieving, your grief is valid and worthy of support.
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TFMR stands for termination for medical reasons, the decision to end a pregnancy following a diagnosis of a severe fetal anomaly or genetic condition. It is one of the most isolating forms of pregnancy loss because it involves both grief and a decision, which can complicate the mourning process and make it difficult to find community. Some people also experience moral injury alongside grief, particularly if the decision conflicted with their values or beliefs. TFMR loss is absolutely appropriate and important to address in therapy. You made an impossible decision out of love. You deserve support that honors that.
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Recurrent pregnancy loss has its own specific emotional texture, the cumulative grief, the eroding hope, the anxiety that becomes woven into every subsequent pregnancy, the relationship strain. Therapy for recurrent loss addresses all of these dimensions and is also attentive to the particular exhaustion that comes from grieving over and over again without resolution. Multiple losses do not mean your grief is "too complicated", they mean you need, and deserve, robust support.
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Yes. If your baby had a name, I will use it. If they didn't, we can find a way to refer to them that feels right to you. Your baby existed. Saying their name matters.
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There is no too long. Grief doesn't follow a schedule, and the idea that you should be "over it" by a certain point is one of the most harmful myths around pregnancy loss. Some people find that grief softens significantly within months; others carry it as a quieter companion for years. Both are normal. Therapy isn't about accelerating your grief, it's about making sure you're not carrying it entirely alone, and that it's moving rather than frozen.